“People, don’t you understand, the child needs a helping hand
or he’ll grow to be an angry young man some day
Take a look at you and me, are we too blind to see,
do we simply turn our heads and look the other way”
Elvis Presley – In The Ghetto 1969
“I don’t want to be alive, I just want to die now.” An eight year old little boy said this. This is not the first time I have heard of children having these types of thoughts.
I have recently started teaching yoga at an elementary school. I asked the children what they knew about yoga and why they wanted to learn about it. The two comments that obtrude the most to me were, it makes me calm and school is stressful. The fact that almost every child said school is stressful breaks my heart. These children are in grade three and they already find life and school stressful. This is their outlook on life at eight years old. I personally do not remember elementary school being stressful. It was a place of fun, friendships and adventure.
What are we doing in our school systems now that our children are having panic attacks, fighting, judging one another, who is cool, a loser, normal, who has money who doesn’t.
Yes, in highschool I felt a lot these feelings. Not in elementary school. It now starts at an incredibly young age, children as early as eight years old are having thoughts of suicide, resentment, hatred and judging. Children notice everything. If you have children or are around them often enough I hope you notice what they are talking about. Our society today has so much hate and negativity. Our children are unsure how to handle such negativity so they become negative towards the negativity which in return becomes acting out as us adults call it.
Today there are numerous apps that kids can get for free on their smart phones. One that I have heard of in particular is called ask me anything. There is an age limit on this but guess what kids lie, especially now because we have given them the access to do so easily. On this account literally anyone can go onto your page and just like it says, you can ask them anything. Can you imagine your daughter or son on this account? There also is an app that looks like a calculator, you use the numbers to create a passcode and you can store nude photos or anything you want there. A 13 year old showed me this.
Do you not remember how difficult growing up is? I bet you, still to this day, are learning about yourself. Your children for the first time are learning everything, be conscious of this. Just because you might have had a bad day does not mean they know that. Do not choose to be unconscious around your children. Every single day you choose your daily routine; what you wear, what you eat, if you are late, on time, if you smile, laugh or scowl, you choose your thoughts. Don’t think, thinking happens. ‘I think’ is just as false a statement as ‘I digest’ or ‘I circulate my blood.’ Digestion happens, thinking happens. A New Earth, by Eckhart Tolle. This is difficult to grasp at first, I assure you if you choose to practice this you will in time notice when you think about something opposed to your thinking naturally happening.
Overtime we have chosen to be negative. Somehow over the years being negative became easier than choosing to be happy. There are Nordic countries that fine you for smiling at someone on the street. I would be in jail for the rest of my life, for smiling at someone? What happened to our earth to our race? We are humans, brilliant life forms. Yet we are choosing to kill one another, put one another down, do drugs when we can’t handle life. We choose to smoke weed to numb ourselves, get wasted to forget, smoke cigarettes to calm our nerves. I am no angel what-so-ever, when my mother passed I chose the very cliche behaviour to mend my pain. Our race has begun to make the conscious decision to be unconscious to handle certain major life events. Today start to make the decision to be conscious and aware throughout your day. It may be hard at times, you may cry, you may get irritated, angry, mad, happy even. It is a rollercoaster ride that is very much worth every emotion that may come of it.
As a child these thoughts never crossed my mind. One word, YouTube. I get it I love Youtube I have a YouTube account. We are using this device for many wonderful social aspects but also many violent. There have been teenagers that place suicide notes on youtube, people in street fights, rappers in gangs that our children listen to as role models. They have access to way too much on the web and they absorb literally everything.
They see these things and think it is okay for them to do. It’s no wonder they act out. Most likely your child just wants to be recognized, told they did a good job, that you are proud of them.If we take a different approach with our children opposed to yelling, ignoring or beating them I bet they would not only respect you more but they will listen to you. Children are very simple. Honesty is everything.
When I was eight I remember standing in my driveway with bare feet staring up at the sky and I thought to myself, this is the weirdest thing, life. What exactly is it? I just live, and then die? I don’t get it, what is the point? Since that day I had tried to understand life. My niece is now eight, the other day she came into my room and said to me, aunty I know what purpose is, it’s unlocking new doors. Life is an odd thing but the earth knows that you can figure it out.
Incredible, she most likely is not aware of what this truly means but she is conscious. At such a young age she is already able to grasp what many adults take years to apprehend. So my question to you is,
Do we comprehend consciousness as a child vibrantly but as we get older we begin to notice all of the negativity around us that we start choosing the unconscious state because not only are a lot of our peers commencing this option which in return makes this choice of being unconscious seem normal. And then something major in your life happens and now you are conscious of how unconscious you were the entire time?
Thirteen year olds are choosing to get high instead of doing their homework and this isn’t a problem? Teenagers want to get fucked up on the weekend, I did a cap of molly for $2.50. It’s cheap and easy to get. I was fucked for hours. This boy is seventeen years old. Does this comment and much others that are all over social media not completely freak you out? Why are so many of us fighting one another? Half of you reading this will think I am a complete lunatic and that is fine.
I notice very often people snap at one another. They are angry, many have scowled looks on their faces throughout the halls of schools, sidewalks, grocery stores, banks and libraries. I understand life is not phenomenal all the time, it can and will be hard. I weep, I get angry, I get irritated. I choose to be aware and conscious during this time to understand why these emotions have over ruled my natural form, my natural being. I am not saying I want to see everyone running around with a giddy grin on their face saying I love life it’s amazing, that would get exhausting and eventually we would take things for granted. Sadly for most of us it takes a vast life event for us to grasp the understanding of consciousness.
I used to to be so over the top happy. It really pissed everyone off and everyone thought I was annoying as hell. This hurt my feelings. I was unconscious. In high-school one individual still to this day stands out to me. He hated my happiness and joy for life, so I thought. I assumed he would purposely try and bring me down. I was too carefree to care about his yearning of tranquility in the dawn. It wasn’t until my mom passed that I became conscious of how unconscious I chose to be towards his feelings and many others feelings.
How do you choose to be conscious? Right now you are choosing to be conscious. You are alert, you are aware of what you are reading. You may have to read it a few times to grasp the concept, and I hope you do, but you right now are choosing to be conscious. Thank-you. It is hard to grasp at first, I make myself meditate, although I despise it some of the times. I did not want to remember my mother’s passing I wanted to be present in the now and forget it, it’s in the past I just want to bury it and move forward. Everytime I close my eyes I see her on her deathbed, I do not want to. I recognized with my anger and how quickly I became anxious of this topic that I was clearly still on a journey of freeing myself from the pain of her loss. I chose to be conscious and aware, to allow myself the time to feel what I was feeling but I as an individual could not and would not allow my emotions to control me any longer.
Over the last few months days of me weeping turned into hours, hours turned to minutes and now it has been five months. I notice the pain, I feel the pain and I am able to free myself of the pain of her loss. Choose to recognize yourself, your thoughts, your emotions. You are valid, but do not forget that every single life form is valid as well.
How do you teach love, compassion and joy for life? You show your children. It must be shown at home. Actions speak louder than words. You, as a human no matter what your age, have to show not only our children but every human compassion and love. You cannot teach love you show love.
In my yoga class at the elementary school there is a girl who is seven. We were all sitting in meditation pose. As we all sat there in quite I began to hear sighing, again and again. I opened my eyes and saw this little girl in such vexation. She sighed again. Hun, are you alright? I asked. This is so hard, I can’t just lay here. She broke into tears. I went over to her and laid with her, not touching her. She released tears for almost five minutes. I could feel her agony, her accuanation. After her breathing evened and she sat up I gave her a hug. She said she was sorry. I said, what for? You have nothing to be sorry for honey. Emotions can be very overwhelming. It is okay to allow yourself the time to have these moments when necessary. I knew there must be an underlying reason. I wanted her to share this on her own so I waited. Within seconds she prompted, No I am sorry. I am suppose to take care of my little brother and sister during recess and I forgot, I don’t want to let my little brother and sister down. At eight years old she could not allow herself the time to enjoy the class as she was so worried about her younger siblings. Children need to know responsibility but they should not feel obligated.
My purpose of this post is to make not only parents conscious but siblings, teachers, aunts, uncles, sisters, brothers, any type of person that is classified as a guidance teacher for our young to be conscious. Be conscious of the child’s anger, their tears, their frustrations with school and everyday life. Choose to save our race.
“Well the world turns
and a hungry little boy with a runny nose
plays in the street as the cold wind blows
In the ghetto
And his hunger burns
so he starts to roam the streets at night
and he learns how to steal
and he learns how to fight
In the ghetto
Then one night in desperation
a young man breaks away
He buys a gun, steals a car,
tries to run, but he don’t get far
And his mama cries
As a crowd gathers ’round an angry young man
face down on the street with a gun in his hand
In the ghetto
As her young man dies,
on a cold and gray Chicago mornin’,
another little baby child is born
In the ghetto”
Your Destiny Is The Sum Of Your Typical Day – Ryan Pritchard
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